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The Bitches Aren’t Back

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We’ve pledged not to be the interns whose veins of professional existence are determined by how readily we fill the palms of our offices with hot paper cups of overpriced coffee. We may appreciate baristas for their amazing milk foaming skills, but it is not our mission to establish a first name basis with the staff of Starbucks. We may consider ourselves poised and capable people, but we will not try to balance drink holders over our heads for the shaky promise of a full time job. We may be young, but we are determined to use our minds for something more than remembering who ordered the skinny-french-vanilla-latte and who wanted the black coffee with sugar.

That being said, we are happy to be Not Your Coffee Bitch. Our mission statement back in 2012 was “to raise awareness of political and cultural issues important to American young adults.” These words still apply 100%. That being said, drop us a comment or two regarding any of our articles or topics that get you thinking. We have our strong opinions and we know that you have yours.

Not Your Coffee Bitch is currently in the process of reassembling a reliable, thought-provoking team of writers who are interested in analyzing current events and politics on a weekly basis. If you would like to be a part of our team, please email Calley Nelson at calleynlsn@aol.com and tell us about why you’ve refused to be a coffee bitch. Follow us on Twitter @NYCoffeebitch if you haven’t already.

Jokes aside- thank you for your interest and support! We look forward to hearing from you!

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October 11, International Day of the Girl Child

When I first heard that the U.N was making October 11, 2012 the first “girls day,” I thought that the idea was ludicrous. I feared that this sort of attention would bring gender equality backwards in the western world. But, I was thinking selfishly. Today isn’t a day for western women, in the most part. It has nothing to do with the fact that we were once a minority.

Today is a day for young girls in developing nations that need help desperately. October 11 is here to raise awareness to the struggles that some women still face, simply because they are women. It is important for people, especially Americans, to understand that equality and independence are still dreams elsewhere in the world. This day is all about ending child marriage and the poverty that currently keeps young girls in shackles.

For example, in India, they are trying to lower the marriage age to help protect young girls from sexual crimes. The U.N is trying to convince India that this will not work. Forty percent of all child marriages that take place in the world happen in India and if the legal age to marry is lowered even further there is no telling how high the number will rise. Child marriage is detrimental to society. Not only does it hinder with the girls’ education greatly, but it also makes it virtually impossible for these young girls to obtain any sort of independence and financial freedom. These young girls are too young to know what is happening to them and are made both prisoners in their own homes and victims according to an article in The Hindu.

In Thailand, young girls are being forced to work in brothels. The local police hardly ever helps these girls because of the immense corruption that engulfs the country. Many girls end up contracting HIV/AIDS because of men not using protection while raping them.

These young women have a lot going against them, and very few forces working for them. This is why I celebrate International Day of the Girl Child. They still have so far to go, and the awareness brought upon them by the U.N can only help. Let us not take our freedoms for granted and help to share them with young girls living all over the world.

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Has anyone ever wondered why nearly fifty percent of all American marriages end in divorce? I’m sure there are a lot of factors. For instance, our fast paced world doesn’t make relationships the easiest thing. There is temptation everywhere and social media has made it easier to reunite with people from your past, and in your future. To me, I think that those are all tiny factors in a much more interesting theory of mine. That is independence.

Very long ago, in a time that seemed like another world, marriage ment financial stability for women. It seemed like the only way for a woman to survive in this world. Likewise, men did not know how to live alone. marriages didn’t stay together because people loved each other more, they stayed together for survival. That is why, in my opinion, the rising in divorce rates does not equal the downfall of our society, but rather, society’s rise.

For instance, out of 2,390 students enrolled at DePauw University, 56% of them were women, and 44% of the students were men. Clearly, women are no longer depending on men for financial stability. We are educated, powerful and strong. This trend is not only at DePauw University, but most institutions of higher learning. I would have to say that out of hundreds of college brochures that I received, the women that were enrolled out numbered the amount of men. Women no longer need men, leaving the only reason to get married as a want thing. In the words of Gloria Steinem, “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” Umijo, Kenya proved this fact very well. It is a women’s only village and a safe haven for women who were forced into unwanted marriages and rape survivors. Rebecca Lolosoli, the founder of the village, tells women that they do not need to be forced into marriage. They are safe and free in a village of their own.

Likewise, men don’t need women for survival. They can cook, clean, and are perfectly capable making lunches and changing diapers no thanks to condescending ad campaigns from paper towel and diaper companies. There is no need to marry someone to run the household. Even if some guys aren’t the best cooks or cleaners, they can hire someone to do that, buy t.v dinners, or take a class. In the same way that women can choose to either pay someone to do things that they aren’t the best at, like cooking, or cleaning, or learn how.

People are starting to live together before marriage and they are starting to wait longer before marriage. I think that this is reassuring the sanctity of marriage. No longer is it something to be taken lightly, or the be rushed into before becoming an old maid at the age of 22. It is something that is, or should be, based on love, and only love. Then, when the love is gone, people (most of the time) leave and try to find love somewhere else.

Of course, there are those people that hold society back. I’m talking about grown women who can’t live on their own for more than a few months without a man to support her financially. And I’m talking about men that rely on women to do their housework and to cook. Our jobs, as NotYourCoffeeBitches, is to spread the word of independence to a select few in the western world, but more importantly, those in the developing world. They are the ones who need a hand. They need educated to become independent and they need our help doing it. Watch Half They Sky and then visit www.halftheskymovement.org to donate. I dare you to not be inspired.

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A Declaration of Independence for Both Sexes

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